Gerry Lane, Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist from Atlanta Counseling Therapy, is here to share his advice for strengthening your relationship with your parents.
A common problem is adult children refusing to forgive their parents for not parenting perfectly. In order for adult children to mature, they must take responsibility for their lives and stop blaming all of life’s problems on how they were raised.
What is the first step to solving that particular problem?
The first step for people learning to forgive imperfect parents is to try to see their parents as normal, fallible people who made mistakes.
When people want to move forward, what are the next steps?
They should try to see what type of relationship is possible to build with their parent in the here and now. I advise people to keep in touch with parents and try and learn more about how they themselves were raised – in other words, build a friendship with your parents.