Psychotherapist Dr. Janet Page is here to give you her best advice about how to get out of a toxic relationship.
How would you define a toxic relationship?
Any relationship in which you feel increasingly bad about yourself. I define it in terms of personal perception rather than behavior because toxicity can be delivered in passive aggressive doses and is hard to recognize as destructive.
Why do people allow toxic relationships in their lives?
Masochism (having expectations that are pathologically low) is major one and is frequently accompanied by the misguided and delusional belief that toxic people, if sufficiency pleased, will become loving and accepting.
What is your advice for removing a toxic relationship from your life?
Cessation of contact: the exit review, if held at all, is best if brief and kept to statement of fact. Accusing will fall on emotionally deaf ears and leave you feeling less good. Ask for change, but if it doesn’t occur, exit rapidly.
Where can people go for support?
Seek out healthy people around you who have seen the relationship in action. Spiritual and therapeutic support are also good choices, as well as reading every book you can find on building self-worth.